How to Rescue An Angry Person [ Don’t ]

“Let angry people endure the backlash of their own anger; if you try to make it better, you’ll only make it worse.

Proverbs 19:19 (The Message)

Life Question … 

What generally happens to “rescuers” who get caught up trying to calm down an angry person—all the time?

Possible “High Internalization Potential” (HIP) response …

Chronically-angry people usually believe some version of, “I deserve better.”

When their expectations are not met, [in their minds] it’s because somebody dropped the ball, and so somebody else needs to pay this perceived debt.

If you sense this, then it’s time to create some emotional distance between you and the person who keeps saying, “I deserve more than I have.” 

In contrast, mentally-healthy people say to themselves … 

“I deserve what I have chosen … and I can always choose differently.”

Especially when …

Schmidt Happens

Go Deeper: Watch the movie Law Abiding Citizen

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