Why Some People Say “No” to Healing …

When Jesus saw him lying there and knew that he had already been there a long time, he said to him, “Do you want to be healed?” (John 5:6)

Life Questions …

In regard to an ongoing challenge, (mental, emotional, spiritual, physical, financial) … What would healing look like to you?

What would you lose if you were healed?

Would the trade-off be worth it?

High Internalization Potential (HIP) response …

In the John 5 story above, the man doesn’t answer Jesus’ question, but gives a mythological response as to why he hasn’t experienced healing.

The thing he’s been trying for decades isn’t working, (so, in his mind) – healing must not be possible.

Sometimes people can become so wrapped up in their long-term suffering that it becomes a part of their identity—and that’s not something they want to lose. So, as counterintuitive as it may seem, some people say “no” to healing.

This weeks’ tier rewards include Life Questions on I Corinthians 3:12-14 (The Bema Seat Judgment), Proverbs 2, and an animation called “The Seduction of the Siren’s Song)

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Even Jesus wouldn’t come near this …

One of the multitude said to [Jesus], “Teacher, tell my brother to divide the inheritance with me.” But Jesus said to him, “Man, who made me a judge or an arbitrator over you?” He said to them, “Beware! Keep yourselves from covetousness, for a man’s life doesn’t consist of the abundance of the things which he possesses.” (Luke 12:13-15)

Life Questions …

Are you allowing your actions or decisions to be shaped by a threatened loss?

How would experiencing that loss be better than being held hostage?

High Internalization Potential (HIP) Response …

Hearing a lot lately about parents [or grandparents] threatening to withhold an inheritance from their adult children in order to insure their loyalty. This is so damaging. If you’re tempted to do this with your own kids—don’t.

If it’s being done to you, plan your life around never seeing that money. You probably won’t anyway. It’s better to keep your integrity than to sell out to anyone who would exploit your vulnerability.

Especially when …

Schmidt Happens

Go Deeper: Watch the movie, Knives Out

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How to Rescue An Angry Person [ Don’t ]

“Let angry people endure the backlash of their own anger; if you try to make it better, you’ll only make it worse.

Proverbs 19:19 (The Message)

Life Question … 

What generally happens to “rescuers” who get caught up trying to calm down an angry person—all the time?

Possible “High Internalization Potential” (HIP) response …

Chronically-angry people usually believe some version of, “I deserve better.”

When their expectations are not met, [in their minds] it’s because somebody dropped the ball, and so somebody else needs to pay this perceived debt.

If you sense this, then it’s time to create some emotional distance between you and the person who keeps saying, “I deserve more than I have.” 

In contrast, mentally-healthy people say to themselves … 

“I deserve what I have chosen … and I can always choose differently.”

Especially when …

Schmidt Happens

Go Deeper: Watch the movie Law Abiding Citizen

This week’s tier rewards include life questions from Habakkuk (on financial challenges), and Proverbs 1 (on relationship “red flags”), and an animation about Solomon’s fatal flaw.

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Into the Shower, Fully-Clothed

 

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Thirty years ago (on May 7, 1990), we lost a son a few minutes after he was born – after a perfect pregnancy.

On the same day, a co-worker’s wife had a healthy baby boy.

When the co-worker found out about Gregory’s death, he stepped into the shower, fully clothed, and turned on the water … as an expression of gratitude and grief.

That has always been very meaningful to me.

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PRIVACY POLICY

Last updated April 11, 2020

Thank you for choosing to be part of our community at Christian Jerome, LLC (“Company”, “we”, “us”, or “our”). We are committed to protecting your personal information and your right to privacy. If you have any questions or concerns about our policy, or our practices with regards to your personal information, please contact us at doug@dougschmidt.com.

When you visit our website http://dougschmidt.com, and use our services, you trust us with your personal information. We take your privacy very seriously. In this privacy policy, we seek to explain to you in the clearest way possible what information we collect, how we use it and what rights you have in relation to it. We hope you take some time to read through it carefully, as it is important. If there are any terms in this privacy policy that you do not agree with, please discontinue use of our Sites and our services.

This privacy policy applies to all information collected through our website (such as http://dougschmidt.com), and/or any related services, sales, marketing or events (we refer to them collectively in this privacy policy as the “Services“).

Please read this privacy policy carefully as it will help you make informed decisions about sharing your personal information with us.

  1. WHAT INFORMATION DO WE COLLECT?

Personal information you disclose to us

In Short:  We collect personal information that you provide to us.

We collect personal information that you voluntarily provide to us when expressing an interest in obtaining information about us or our products and services, when participating in activities on the Services or otherwise contacting us.

The personal information that we collect depends on the context of your interactions with us and the Services, the choices you make and the products and features you use. The personal information we collect can include the following:

Publicly Available Personal Information. We collect first name, maiden name, last name, and nickname; current and former address; phone numbers; email addresses; business email; business phone number; business entity filings, corporate affiliations, and business associates; criminal records and mugshots; social media; and other similar data.

Personal Information Provided by You. We collect app usage; and other similar data.

Social Media Login Data. We may provide you with the option to register using social media account details, like your Facebook, Twitter or other social media account. If you choose to register in this way, we will collect the Information described in the section called “HOW DO WE HANDLE YOUR SOCIAL LOGINS” below.

All personal information that you provide to us must be true, complete and accurate, and you must notify us of any changes to such personal information.

  1. HOW DO WE USE YOUR INFORMATION?

In Short:  We process your information for purposes based on legitimate business interests, the fulfillment of our contract with you, compliance with our legal obligations, and/or your consent.

We use personal information collected via our Services for a variety of business purposes described below. We process your personal information for these purposes in reliance on our legitimate business interests, in order to enter into or perform a contract with you, with your consent, and/or for compliance with our legal obligations. We indicate the specific processing grounds we rely on next to each purpose listed below.

We use the information we collect or receive:

  • To facilitate account creation and logon process. If you choose to link your account with us to a third party account (such as your Google or Facebook account), we use the information you allowed us to collect from those third parties to facilitate account creation and logon process for the performance of the contract. See the section below headed “HOW DO WE HANDLE YOUR SOCIAL LOGINS” for further information.
  • To send you marketing and promotional communications. We and/or our third party marketing partners may use the personal information you send to us for our marketing purposes, if this is in accordance with your marketing preferences. You can opt-out of our marketing emails at any time (see the “WHAT ARE YOUR PRIVACY RIGHTS” below).
  • To send administrative information to you. We may use your personal information to send you product, service and new feature information and/or information about changes to our terms, conditions, and policies.
  • Fulfill and manage your orders. We may use your information to fulfill and manage your orders, payments, returns, and exchanges made through the Services.
  • To post testimonials. We post testimonials on our Services that may contain personal information. Prior to posting a testimonial, we will obtain your consent to use your name and testimonial. If you wish to update, or delete your testimonial, please contact us at __________ and be sure to include your name, testimonial location, and contact information.
  • Deliver targeted advertising to you. We may use your information to develop and display content and advertising (and work with third parties who do so) tailored to your interests and/or location and to measure its effectiveness.
  • Request Feedback. We may use your information to request feedback and to contact you about your use of our Services.
  • To protect our Services. We may use your information as part of our efforts to keep our Services safe and secure (for example, for fraud monitoring and prevention).
  • To enforce our terms, conditions and policies for Business Purposes, Legal Reasons and Contractual.
  • To respond to legal requests and prevent harm. If we receive a subpoena or other legal request, we may need to inspect the data we hold to determine how to respond.
  • To manage user accounts. We may use your information for the purposes of managing our account and keeping it in working order.
  • To deliver services to the user. We may use your information to provide you with the requested service.
  • To respond to user inquiries/offer support to users. We may use your information to respond to your inquiries and solve any potential issues you might have with the use of our Services.
  • For other Business Purposes. We may use your information for other Business Purposes, such as data analysis, identifying usage trends, determining the effectiveness of our promotional campaigns and to evaluate and improve our Services, products, marketing and your experience. We may use and store this information in aggregated and anonymized form so that it is not associated with individual end users and does not include personal information. We will not use identifiable personal information without your consent.
  1. WILL YOUR INFORMATION BE SHARED WITH ANYONE?

In Short:  We only share information with your consent, to comply with laws, to provide you with services, to protect your rights, or to fulfill business obligations.

We may process or share data based on the following legal basis:

  • Consent: We may process your data if you have given us specific consent to use your personal information in a specific purpose.
  • Legitimate Interests: We may process your data when it is reasonably necessary to achieve our legitimate business interests.
  • Performance of a Contract: Where we have entered into a contract with you, we may process your personal information to fulfill the terms of our contract.
  • Legal Obligations: We may disclose your information where we are legally required to do so in order to comply with applicable law, governmental requests, a judicial proceeding, court order, or legal process, such as in response to a court order or a subpoena (including in response to public authorities to meet national security or law enforcement requirements).
  • Vital Interests: We may disclose your information where we believe it is necessary to investigate, prevent, or take action regarding potential violations of our policies, suspected fraud, situations involving potential threats to the safety of any person and illegal activities, or as evidence in litigation in which we are involved.

More specifically, we may need to process your data or share your personal information in the following situations:

  • Vendors, Consultants and Other Third-Party Service Providers. We may share your data with third party vendors, service providers, contractors or agents who perform services for us or on our behalf and require access to such information to do that work. Examples include: payment processing, data analysis, email delivery, hosting services, customer service and marketing efforts. We may allow selected third parties to use tracking technology on the Services, which will enable them to collect data about how you interact with the Services over time. This information may be used to, among other things, analyze and track data, determine the popularity of certain content and better understand online activity. Unless described in this Policy, we do not share, sell, rent or trade any of your information with third parties for their promotional purposes.
  • Business Transfers. We may share or transfer your information in connection with, or during negotiations of, any merger, sale of company assets, financing, or acquisition of all or a portion of our business to another company.
  • Third-Party Advertisers. We may use third-party advertising companies to serve ads when you visit the Services. These companies may use information about your visits to our Website(s) and other websites that are contained in web cookies and other tracking technologies in order to provide advertisements about goods and services of interest to you.
  • Affiliates. We may share your information with our affiliates, in which case we will require those affiliates to honor this privacy policy. Affiliates include our parent company and any subsidiaries, joint venture partners or other companies that we control or that are under common control with us.
  1. DO WE USE COOKIES AND OTHER TRACKING TECHNOLOGIES?

In Short:  We may use cookies and other tracking technologies to collect and store your information.

We may use cookies and similar tracking technologies (like web beacons and pixels) to access or store information. Specific information about how we use such technologies and how you can refuse certain cookies is set out in our Cookie Policy.

  1. HOW DO WE HANDLE YOUR SOCIAL LOGINS?

In Short:  If you choose to register or log in to our services using a social media account, we may have access to certain information about you.

Our Services offer you the ability to register and login using your third party social media account details (like your Facebook or Twitter logins). Where you choose to do this, we will receive certain profile information about you from your social media provider. The profile Information we receive may vary depending on the social media provider concerned, but will often include your name, e-mail address, friends list, profile picture as well as other information you choose to make public.

We will use the information we receive only for the purposes that are described in this privacy policy or that are otherwise made clear to you on the Services. Please note that we do not control, and are not responsible for, other uses of your personal information by your third party social media provider. We recommend that you review their privacy policy to understand how they collect, use and share your personal information, and how you can set your privacy preferences on their sites and apps.

  1. WHAT IS OUR STANCE ON THIRD-PARTY WEBSITES?

In Short:  We are not responsible for the safety of any information that you share with third-party providers who advertise, but are not affiliated with, our websites.

The Services may contain advertisements from third parties that are not affiliated with us and which may link to other websites, online services or mobile applications. We cannot guarantee the safety and privacy of data you provide to any third parties. Any data collected by third parties is not covered by this privacy policy. We are not responsible for the content or privacy and security practices and policies of any third parties, including other websites, services or applications that may be linked to or from the Services. You should review the policies of such third parties and contact them directly to respond to your questions.

  1. HOW LONG DO WE KEEP YOUR INFORMATION?

In Short:  We keep your information for as long as necessary to fulfill the purposes outlined in this privacy policy unless otherwise required by law.

We will only keep your personal information for as long as it is necessary for the purposes set out in this privacy policy, unless a longer retention period is required or permitted by law (such as tax, accounting or other legal requirements). No purpose in this policy will require us keeping your personal information for longer than 2 years.

When we have no ongoing legitimate business need to process your personal information, we will either delete or anonymize it, or, if this is not possible (for example, because your personal information has been stored in backup archives), then we will securely store your personal information and isolate it from any further processing until deletion is possible.

  1. DO WE COLLECT INFORMATION FROM MINORS?

In Short:  We do not knowingly collect data from or market to children under 18 years of age.

We do not knowingly solicit data from or market to children under 18 years of age. By using the Services, you represent that you are at least 18 or that you are the parent or guardian of such a minor and consent to such minor dependent’s use of the Services. If we learn that personal information from users less than 18 years of age has been collected, we will deactivate the account and take reasonable measures to promptly delete such data from our records. If you become aware of any data we have collected from children under age 18, please contact us at __________.

  1. WHAT ARE YOUR PRIVACY RIGHTS?

In Short:  You may review, change, or terminate your account at any time.

If you are resident in the European Economic Area and you believe we are unlawfully processing your personal information, you also have the right to complain to your local data protection supervisory authority. You can find their contact details here: http://ec.europa.eu/justice/data-protection/bodies/authorities/index_en.htm.

Cookies and similar technologies: Most Web browsers are set to accept cookies by default. If you prefer, you can usually choose to set your browser to remove cookies and to reject cookies. If you choose to remove cookies or reject cookies, this could affect certain features or services of our Services. To opt-out of interest-based advertising by advertisers on our Services visit http://www.aboutads.info/choices/.

  1. CONTROLS FOR DO-NOT-TRACK FEATURES

Most web browsers and some mobile operating systems and mobile applications include a Do-Not-Track (“DNT”) feature or setting you can activate to signal your privacy preference not to have data about your online browsing activities monitored and collected. No uniform technology standard for recognizing and implementing DNT signals has been finalized. As such, we do not currently respond to DNT browser signals or any other mechanism that automatically communicates your choice not to be tracked online. If a standard for online tracking is adopted that we must follow in the future, we will inform you about that practice in a revised version of this privacy policy.

  1. DO CALIFORNIA RESIDENTS HAVE SPECIFIC PRIVACY RIGHTS?

In Short:  Yes, if you are a resident of California, you are granted specific rights regarding access to your personal information.

California Civil Code Section 1798.83, also known as the “Shine The Light” law, permits our users who are California residents to request and obtain from us, once a year and free of charge, information about categories of personal information (if any) we disclosed to third parties for direct marketing purposes and the names and addresses of all third parties with which we shared personal information in the immediately preceding calendar year. If you are a California resident and would like to make such a request, please submit your request in writing to us using the contact information provided below.

If you are under 18 years of age, reside in California, and have a registered account with the Services, you have the right to request removal of unwanted data that you publicly post on the Services. To request removal of such data, please contact us using the contact information provided below, and include the email address associated with your account and a statement that you reside in California. We will make sure the data is not publicly displayed on the Services, but please be aware that the data may not be completely or comprehensively removed from our systems.

  1. DO WE MAKE UPDATES TO THIS POLICY?

In Short:  Yes, we will update this policy as necessary to stay compliant with relevant laws.

We may update this privacy policy from time to time. The updated version will be indicated by an updated “Revised” date and the updated version will be effective as soon as it is accessible. If we make material changes to this privacy policy, we may notify you either by prominently posting a notice of such changes or by directly sending you a notification. We encourage you to review this privacy policy frequently to be informed of how we are protecting your information.

  1. HOW CAN YOU CONTACT US ABOUT THIS POLICY?

If you have questions or comments about this policy, you may email us at doug@dougschmidt.com or by post to:

Christian Jerome, LLC

2211 E. 128th Avenue

Thornton, CO 80241

United States

 

 

Capable: Overcoming Learned Helplessness

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I can’t jog. 

If I had a Native American name, it would mean “Runs Like a Fat Antelope.”

I just have an aversion for running. As far as we can tell, Jesus never ran anywhere.

And Solomon said, “The wicked run when no one pursues” (Proverbs 28:1). 

As so goes my reasoning; rationalization covers a multitude of sins.

A friend of mine, Michael, a PhD candidate, once challenged my thinking on this. He was working on a book about overcoming “learned helplessness” – in our culture, as a nation, in the church, and as individuals.

As he was describing what he had in mind, it felt like I was being tazered. All of my well-honed excuses started crumbling in front of me.

Here’s how Michael might challenge my thoughts on jogging.

“Doug, are you incapable of running?”

To which I’d have to answer, “No”  …

I could get one of those “Couch to 5K” apps and do the program, start walking, and go a little further each day, get on a treadmill, etc.

What I tell myself I can’t do, in reality, I’m usually capable of doing.

I don’t think this problem is limited to me. I know so many people who hate their jobs, but believe that they can’t do anything else. Others are caught up in bad habits that they tell themselves they can’t shake. A few of my friends have made themselves financially dependent on people who, in turn, treat them like obligated servants.

So I’m getting into the habit of asking myself,

“Am I truly incapable of doing “A,” “B,” or “C”?

If the answer is “no,” then maybe it’s time to get off the couch.

Especially when,

Schmidt Happens …

 

Reflection Questions …

  1. Finish the following sentence … “I just can’t [blank].”

  2. Are you truly incapable of doing [blank]? If not, is it time put together a plan of action? Explain.

Update: I’ve recently gamified my workout routine by putting together a (simulated) 3000-mile hike from Kennebunkport, Maine to San Diego.

For every high-interval-training cycle I complete, I give myself “10 miles” on the hike. Then I look up (online) where the ten-plus miles would have taken me, and check out the local attractions! It’s great fun!

The Gospel (Jargon-Free)

This is how some followers of Christ would summarize “The Gospel” in a way that’s free from any jargon that is only meaningful to people who’ve been going to church for years — here it is:

 

There is no way to repair the damage

that some of our words and actions have caused

apart from what Jesus did for us on the cross.

 

When we fully realize

how much we have hurt some people

we better understand

why Hell (as self-chosen) has to exist.

 

But here is the good news:

If we own up to that damage

and ask God to be merciful,

He forgives and restores.

 

If the Holy Spirit is asking you

to own up and believe,

just do it.

Say yes.

What’s Important to You Matters to Me

Christians … People are tired of hearing that what’s important to them doesn’t matter.

One of the most popular evangelical books ever starts with the line …

“It’s not about you.”

Right. Jesus died for the chipmunks.

Rubbish.

Here are some basic truths ( from my faith-based perspective ).

  1. People are always going to put their energy into what’s important to them.

  2. As a person becomes more and more like Christ, what’s important to him or her CHANGES.

I’ve seen this happen over and over again …

For decades, I’ve led small groups where people have been wrestling with deep emotional wounds. As they experience genuine healing ( which is important to them ), their attention shifts from themselves to the injuries of others—and then they become wounded healers.

Sometimes we get it right …

My church has a Saturday night service because there are some people in my sub-culture who want to have an entire day ( the next day, Sunday ) completely free of obligations so that they can truly rest.

The existence of this Saturday night service isn’t a concession to a shallow consumer-mindset; it’s simply a way to address what’s important to these folks.

That same church has started a program called “Tell Me Your Story” to find out what’s important to people …

Here’s a link to a whiteboard animation that gives a snapshot of what that’s all about:

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https://crossroadsabc.com/ng/

Christians, let’s move away from saying “this should be important to you” to helping people articulate what is actually important to them … and then trust the Holy Spirit to move them closer to Jesus.

Especially when,

Schmidt Happens.

 

 

 

 

No Contact: Person vs. Voice

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Disclaminer: this is one of those “for educational purposes only” posts expressing the ideas of an NLA ( non-licensed amateur ) and should not be taken as a substitute for professional medical advice … and there’s spoilers ahead. )

One of the best portrayals of healing ( after an extended bout with mental illness ) is in a movie called A Beautiful Mind with Russell Crowe and Jennifer Connelly.

John Nash, a brilliant academician, is diagnosed with schizophrenia and suffers with the condition for years until his physicians find the right medications and mental exercises to keep his delusions at bay—while they never completely go away.

Three of these delusions take on the form of a young girl, a college roommate, and an older gentleman who is a government agent. Throughout the movie, Nash fully engages these figures who take on a realistic life of their own. Over the decades, he realizes that these characters are not aging.

Toward the end of his career, he learned to stop interacting with these figures, who never fully disappear, but always seem to stay about seventy-five feet away from him. ( Of course, he can still see them ).

While they continue to watch Nash, they do not verbalize anything—they even look a bit resigned to the fact that he isn’t going to challenge them like he used to.

So they keep their distance and remain silent.

 

This scene has helped me understand that while certain annoying tendencies in our thinking can be hardwired into our brains, ( and, therefore, never really go away ), we don’t have to engage those insecurities—so eventually they become benign.

This can also be helpful with adults whose parents were ( and are ) emotionally & verbally abusive. Whenever these adults engage their parents ( in real life ), the harsh individuals eventually pick up where they left off, accusing their adult children of making stupid decisions, or not listening to them, or abandonment, or questioning their relationship choices. For some reason, these shaming personalities just can’t shut up, no matter how clearly reasonable boundaries are defined.

[ Here’s a link to a heart-wrenching display of this type of behavior portrayed by Sam Tarly’s father in a scene from Game of Throneshttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UQPgfMbECzQ ]

In many cases, literal “no contact” with these abusive parents is the healthiest path to explore, but can be very difficult to do – again, given a person’s hardwiring ( or internal programming ), the incessant guilting, family events where paths cross, or the persistent calling and texting by these immature individuals who won’t take “no” for an answer.

( Even though it’s hard, this type of outrageous behavior should not be tolerated—even though the costs and losses associated with “no contact” can be significant ). 

“Warn a divisive person once, and then warn them a second time. After that, have nothing to do with them” (Titus 3:10). 

Here’s the ironic ( and tragic ) thing: Even when these abusive parents give up or pass away, their voices stay behind.

All of their dire predictions can play over and over again like a broken record until their meddling voices are internalized by the adult child, who eventually accepts these accusations as true.

( Occasionally I wonder if some homeless people are simply living out the self-fulfilling prophecies that were drilled into their heads by a soul-crushing mother or father ).

Here’s a mental exercise that might work for some people in this situation ..

When the malicious voice begins to be heard, picture the shaming parent ( or other abusive personality ) speaking the words. In your mind, put this person about ten feet in front of you.

Don’t argue with the ideas you’re hearing, don’t try to counter them with affirmative statements, don’t try to define yet another boundary …

Simply ask the talking figure to back up 15 feet. 

( Since this is mental exercise, they have to do what you say! )

After they back up, put a hand to your ear and say, “I can’t hear you … please back up another fifteen feet.”

( Depending on the person you have in mind, you might imagine them rolling their eyes or giving you other types of condemning looks. )

If you can still hear their voice ( in your mind ) say, “I still can’t hear you … please back up another fifteen feet.” Keep repeating this exercise until they are at a distance where you probably couldn’t hear them, even if they were yelling at the top of their lungs ( maybe 200 feet ).

Imagine them giving up on trying to speak to you ( from 70 yards away ), even though they may never disappear in your mind’s eye.

See if this doesn’t help silence, or at least diminish, any non-nurturing voice that pulls you down …

Especially when,

Schmidt Happens …

 

Image from the movie A Beautiful Mind (2001), produced by Universal Pictures, DreamWorks and Imagine Entertainment

 

 

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